Your Heart Holds The Healing



Your Heart Holds The Healing

There is a resource available to you that reaches farther than any other medicine. It is called Loving. It resides inside of you and it available in unlimited amounts. The only energy of the universe that cannot be changed or manipulated. Love has the ability to change DNA. Yes, change DNA! Wow!  Love changes the body, love changes the mind and love changes how life organizes around you. The reason I suggest this route (and am building an entire business around this idea) is that I believe it to be the quickest and most direct way to change your body, life and outlook in life. You change how you feel about your disease and after you do that, life changes. You don’t have to go outside of yourself for the answers. The inside of you holds the healing. Heal how you perceive your disease, and then the answers about how to heal your life come to you.

So often I see clients struggling to be “strong”. Strong enough to stay on AIP. Strong enough to keep choosing healthy food. Strong enough to keep looking for their cure. Affirmations, meditations, positive thinking, stress reduction, food reintroductions, supplements. Oh it is a brave and courageous search for those of us on AIP.  And I wonder if you, like me, find that exhausting. When you use energy to be a certain way (more positive, stronger, smarter, courageous, brave, enlightened, educated, relaxed) it can drain you. Like pouring gas straight out of your gas tank. And it sets up expectations for achievement which can set us up for failure. You become the person who tried to be positive but ate the brownie. Or tried to meditate daily and only managed to get in a few days this week. It is the ultimate chasing your tail scenario. But if you consider for a moment that loving the whole of you can be a platform from which all things come, (including strength, positive thinking and stress reduction) then you stop reaching OUTSIDE of yourself for the answers and you sit down, in your life, with your disease and get down to work on finding and releasing what really is ailing you. That is true freedom. The resource is inside and reaching outside of yourself for answers about healing is not the most direct route.


I want a healing, so I am going to try to DO things (diet, meditation, stress reduction) all of which require you to reach outside of yourself to find the answer


I am going to love this disease. (You don’t go anywhere and healing comes to you)

I am always trying to find shortcuts. If you follow my Instagram page you know that I am constantly trying to hack my AIP foods and find the quickest way to prepare foods. After I tried healing my life through decades long searches and mountains of energy for the perfect formula, I collapsed from exhaustion. Maybe this yoga class. Maybe this meditation. Maybe this diet. Maybe this relationship. Maybe this house. Yes, everything was useful. Everything felt great. But I still searched for the next thing. I would wake up and wonder: “Am I doing enough? Am I doing this right? Am I passing the Test?” And then I would go online and compare myself to how everyone else was doing it. Nothing like building your life on a house of cards, right? It fostered insecurity and competition.  I wondered if there was an easier way to heal my life than chasing the healing. That is when I invited Love in. I asked the universe for more of it. I made a decision to trust my life and fully embrace it. And then things changed in a blink of an eye. And here is the tricky part. It did not necessarily mean my body was healing the way I thought it should. It meant trusting the right here and now, and finding happiness that way. It meant loving the struggle as much as the beauty. It meant accepting everything as a form of upliftment. It meant letting go of what perfect health looked like and loving what was present. My search stopped. My imperfections became beautiful. My relationships vastly improved. My life became something I loved. Pain became less painful, and more of a symptom of being out of alignment. This way of life does not mean there is no suffering. This way of life means that I can trust now that my suffering has the purpose of growing my soul. And now I trust that. And it is a daily practice. And loving is my tool.




  1. Avatar Suzanne December 7, 2014 at 8:09 pm

    Thank you for this. I am exactly at this place, and it is painful. My mom says every time we talk I tell her how hard I’m working, and she wants to tell me to stop trying so hard. It would bring me the greatest peace release all that striving. Thanks again for the insight.

    1. Avatar Jessica December 7, 2014 at 10:01 pm

      You are welcome Suzanne. Don’t give up. I know you can do this. xo-jessica

  2. Avatar Alison December 8, 2014 at 8:12 am

    i feel like I need this healing of the heart. Just don’t know where to begin. It would be so great if you scheduled one of these workshops in Hot Springs, AR in the spring or summer of 2015. I live in Oklahoma but would drive to do this. I would also love for you to share some tips on where to begin to love my life & everything about it.

    1. Avatar Jessica December 8, 2014 at 8:43 am

      Hi Alison! I am happy to organize a workshop there if you want to help! Also, I see clients privately (for now) and we can work together privately. My work is exactly what you are wondering about: where to begin. But the easy way and the least expensive way is to ask the divine/god to show you the way. Ask for more loving. Just start by asking. Some pray, some meditate, some just ask out loud. But the asking part is essential. Ask for the loving. Ask to be shown the way. Regularly, I sit in my bathtub for 15 or so minutes just breathing and asking god for more love. It comes, always. Then you be on the lookout to see how it comes. I would start there. and if you want to contact me directly:

  3. Avatar Amanda December 14, 2014 at 5:44 pm

    I SO needed to read this today. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Avatar Jessica December 18, 2014 at 2:53 pm

      You are welcome Amanda! Glad you found it helpful. xo-jessica

  4. Avatar Kristi December 29, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    Thank you for this…I have read it about 4 times over the past couple of weeks…it’s great. Even sent a link to a friend. I’m working on this…the first way isn’t fun. It’s hard to be the AIP girl that ate the brownie! Love this shift in perspective!

    1. Avatar Jessica December 29, 2014 at 8:58 pm

      Well I don’t eat brownies (only because it gives me a horrible eczema rash on my face and I am vain enough to be really motivated by it ha ha) but I love the analogy and I do mess us all the time 🙂 but work constantly to love the me who is messing up. I think the answer to what ails us as well as the cures are inside of us. When we love ourselves which is a act of cooperation and love (in the midst of disease) we attract love and cooperation to us. I am SO glad that you found this useful. Keep me updated and drop a note and let me know how you do with this! xo-jessica

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